It's not that they actually want to die, all they really want is to escape the pain or anxiety that is inside of them. Often times people sabotage what's most important to them because mentally, they are not okay. Alot of times a person is also unwilling to admit that they are not okay until it is almost too late. The perpetual anxiety that they may feel and are unwilling to deal with gets bigger and bigger. It grows and grows until they are on the edge, about to make a decision that will hurt themselves and others around forever.
Dying by suicide is a desperate attempt to escape suffering that has become unbearable. Blinded by feelings of self-loathing, hopelessness, and isolation, a suicidal person can’t see any way of finding relief except through death. But despite their desire for the pain to stop, most suicidal people are deeply conflicted about ending their own lives. They wish there was an alternative to suicide, but they just can’t see one.
Someone who is suicidal may not ask for help because they feel ashamed, weak or embarrased that they are feeling this way. We need to create a culture around the sufferer letting them know it's okay that they are not okay. Let them know you love them and you'll always be there for them.
Suicide prevention starts with recognizing the warning signs and taking them seriously. If you think a friend or family member is considering suicide, you might be afraid to bring up the subject. But talking openly about suicidal thoughts and feelings can save a life.
If they respond, follow up with questions like these...
TIP: Even if they say nothing in response to your questions and concerns, don't worry, they are still listening, and that's what counts. Continue to sit there in silence and wait. This lets the sufferer subconciously know that you care, you're not giving up and they feel they have somebody on their side who is going help.